Nők és férfiak szexuális hármasokban

Abstract

Abstract – Women and men in sexual threesomes The experiences of sexual threesomes with a man and a woman, and thus the social meanings and significance of gender in sexuality are interrogated through narrative interview analysis. Such mixed-gender threesomes are relevant points in relation to bisexuality, because it promises comprehension of being attracted to both sexes at the same time. Through the analysis of threesome narratives of women and men with bisexual attractions (but not necessarily bisexual identities), I demonstrate the characteristics of their bisexualities, diversely unfolding in their life stories. I examine the experience of sexual threesomes thus in connection to the individual’s gay, bisexual, or unlabelled identity shaped over the life course; to the social conditions of the situation (e.g. political changes, moving to Budapest, dating sites); and to broader social discourses (wo/men’s friendships and sexuality). My interview analyses illuminate the queer critique of gender and sexual categorizations: the experience of a bisexual threesome is not solely defined by the attractions towards both sexes; further, these attractions are not directed only to the biological differences of fe/male bodies. Irrespective of gender, sexual position and love and friendship can be primary. In the positive experiences of threesomes, the intersubjective relations, the combination of stable romantic and occasional sexual partners were decisive as well. Gender difference thus represents social differences – and some do need to experience those at the same time. Keywords: threesome, bisexuality, gender differences, intimacy